How to Get Your Sexy Back

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Yesterday, I spoke on a panel to a group of newer moms when someone asked the question, “How do you get your sexy back?” I grabbed the mic and literally stood up and strutted my stuff on an imaginary runway.  After the laughing died down, we got into some real talk. I’ve seen it happen a thousand times. A woman gets married and starts letting herself go. A few kids come along, and it’s all downhill from there.

Ladies, trust me, I get it. I have 4 kids, a dog, an active businesstry and other responsibilities, but can I be an advocate for the fellas for a minute? When we present our best selves during the dating phase . . . I’m talking hair laid, makeup set, body smelling good, etc., and then all of that suddenly evaporates once we get married and have kids, that ain’t right! It’s like false advertisement! I believe you should be 100% comfortable with your husband, but that doesn’t mean letting yourself go. We all know when you look good, you feel good. Getting your sexy back, though, involves more than just how you look.

5 Ways to Get Your Sexy Back

When the courageous young mom asked, How do you get your sexy back,I yelled, “Don’t let it leave!” Stay intentional about keeping yourself up. For those of you, however, who have mourned in memory of the sexiness you once possessed, here’s how to get it back.

1. A good-looking woman is a sexy woman.

Head start: Focus on your head, literally. You don’t have to spend hours flat ironing or curling your hair every day, but can you comb it? Likewise, you don’t have to put on a full face of makeup, but how about taming your brows or trying a new lip color? How about washing your face? Get your sexy back by looking as good as you can every day.

2. A smart woman is a sexy woman.

Mind blown: What can you do to recharge your mind? If you enjoy reading, read daily. Take classes. Stay on your A-game, whether you have a career or not. Listen to podcasts. Learn from wise thinkers. Get your sexy back by recharging your mind.

3. A loving woman is a sexy woman.

Heart throb: Ladies, take care of your heart. Who do you need to forgive? What do you need to let go of? There is nothing more unsexy than a bitter woman. Get your sexy back by maintaining a tender heart.

4.  A strong woman is a sexy woman.

Body Wave: Now, I know I’m gonna step on some toesies, here, but hear me. Ladies, we have to take care of our bodies. I’m saying this as a woman who is still trying to lose that extra 15 pounds of baby weight from 9 years ago, so no judgment here! Go for a walk or a bike ride. Take a Pilates or dance class, or yoga, if you’re into that. Just move. Trust me, exercise has a way of bringing the sexy back. And for the love of all things holy, take a shower! Get your sexy back by taking care of your body.

5. A spiritual woman is a sexy woman.

Spirit Thrive: We aren’t just physical beings. We are body, soul and spirit. When is the last time you’ve fed your spirit? For me, that means reading my Bible, playing soft worshipful music, meditating and praying. You might ask, How does nurturing my spirit help me feel more sexy? Simply, you can’t give what you don’t have. You might be able to fake it for a little while, but if your spirit is depleted, because you’re lacking in joy, peace, faith, hope, etc., it will show. Get your sexy back by nurturing your spirit.

So, whether you have a man or not, you owe it to yourself to be the best you can be. The kind of sexiness that I’m talking about can’t be taught by the Kardashians. I’m encouraging you to focus on the whole woman. So, get your sexy back! Go ‘head be gone with it.

What does sexiness mean to you? What are some other ways to get your sexy back?