Just Friends Huh? The Truth About Platonic Friends of the Opposite Sex in Marriage

Can you have platonic friends of the opposite sex in marriage? Today, special guest Sylvia Chipman and I explore the possibility of platonic friendships within the context of marriage. We discuss the significance of forming heart-to-heart connections, the importance of intentions, the role of friends, and the challenges of being called out. We emphasize trust and safeguards, the value of open communication, and the need to be ready to listen to your partner.

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Boundaries 

Are you putting your marriage first? It can be as simple as someone filling a need when you or your partner is not. Sharing your heart and baggage with platonic friends in marriage comes down to boundaries. A spouse may have good intentions but can create unwanted soul ties outside their marriage. You might not have any bad intentions, but be careful not to leave room for mishaps and misunderstandings. 

Heart-to-Heart Connections

Genuine bonds are formed within any friendship emotionally and spiritually, transcending physical attraction. Emotional connections can be more profound and enduring, even if you start by just helping out a friend. Sylvia shares a story on how this happened to her.

Intentions Matter

People often find themselves in complicated situations without intending harm.

It is essential to recognize and understand your intentions, as well as others. 

The Role of Friends

Friends can provide valuable perspectives and call you out when necessary. Good friends help you identify your blind spots and make more informed 

decisions. There are things we can’t see, won’t see, or might not want to see. 

Challenges of Being Called Out

Being called out by friends can be difficult but essential for personal growth and healthy relationships. Being further away without emotional ties to the situation can help give friends valuable insight into your situation. If you’re in a situation where you have friends of the opposite sex in your marriage, you may feel defensive when someone questions your intentions or feel embarrassed. But you should ask yourself why you feel these emotions.

Trust and Safeguards

Trust is fundamental in a relationship. It is important to get to know each other’s friends. Setting boundaries is a means to protect the marriage. Different couples will feel comfortable with varying degrees of platonic friendship outside of the marriage. Communicating with your partner is essential to discover what is suitable for your relationship. 

Communication in All Aspects

Toward the end, I asked Sylvia her favorite relationship tip, and she reminded us that everything hinges on communication. Communication is crucial in resolving conflicts and improving intimacy, including sexual intimacy. Don’t assume your partner knows your needs or desires without clear communication. It would be best to express your needs and desires rather than expecting your partner to intuit them. Being a good listener is equally important in maintaining healthy communication within a relationship.

I hope this podcast episode on having friends of the opposite sex in marriage serves as a valuable resource for anyone seeking guidance on balancing platonic friendships while preserving the sanctity of your marriage. Communicate effectively, establish trust, and prioritize your relationships by providing practical advice and real-life examples. As always, A good relationship isn’t one that works; it’s one where you put in the work.

Links Mentioned in this Episode

PLATONIC FRIENDS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX

Learn More About Sylvia Chipman and Thrive Marriage Coaching 

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