How to Create a Sexually Safe Marriage
In our hypersexualized society, marriages have often been the carnage leaving some to wonder are marriages sexually safe anymore. Today, on Real Relationship Talk, we are blessed to have Dr. Andrew Bauman teach us how to have sexually safe marriages. We dive into the impact of pornography, trauma, and objectification of women on individuals and relationships. Our conversation takes into consideration the effects of purity culture, the importance of intimacy, and practical steps for couples to foster healthy sexuality. It’s jam-packed and oh, so good!
What a Sexually Safe Marriage Is
Andrew and I discuss a myriad of topics around the issue of healthy sexuality in relationships. Some of what we discussed are as follows:
Purity Culture and False Myths About Men’s Needs
- The idea that men “need” sex debunked; the myth that men are purely visual creatures driven by physical appearance.
- Dr. Bauman emphasizes that true intimacy and emotional connection should take precedence over mere physical aspects.
Healing from Sexual Trauma
- Acknowledge the prevalence of trauma in women, specifically childhood sexual abuse, and the impact it can have on adult relationships. As a partner, understanding how trauma can affect your relationship.
- Dr. Bauman encourages women to prioritize their own healing and emotional well-being. Partners need to understand how their own upbringing can influence their expectations.
Objectification of Women vs. Christ-likeness
- Dr. Bauman stresses the importance of seeking to become more Christ-like, not porn-like, in relationships.
- Men are encouraged to understand and embrace their own sexual stories and traumas before trying to aid in their partner’s healing.
What Good ealthy Sexuality Looks Like
- Couples are advised to trust their own bodies and seek mutual pleasure and connection in sexual intimacy.
- Dr. Bauman highlights the importance of women knowing their own desires and preferences to help facilitate a more satisfying and equal sexual relationship.
Overcoming Fear of Sexuality in Relationships
- Fear plays a significant role in sexual dynamics within relationships, particularly fear driven by cultural norms.
- Overcoming fear and trusting in love and emotional connection is key to a sexually safe marriage.
The Bible teaches that “Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love” 1 John 4:18 NLT.
This podcast episode delves deep into the intricacies of sexuality and relationships, offering guidance and practical steps for individuals and couples to foster healthier and more fulfilling connections. The conversation challenges stereotypes, encourages emotional healing, and emphasizes that healthy intimacy is built on trust, respect, and mutuality. Be sure to listen to it in its entirety.
ALSO LISTEN TO: How to Have Non-Awkward Conversations About Sex with Your Spouse
Links Mentioned During this Episode
The Sexually Healthy Man – Book
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