Setting Realistic Expectations in Marriage (Young & Married Series) – with Jenard Moore

Being young and married has many advantages, but often young married couples enter into marriage with unrealistic expectations in marriage. On today’s episode, Jenard Moore, host of the Moore Love Connection podcast, a podcast that focuses on millennial marriages, joins us to discuss how to set realistic expectations in our marriages. This episode was truly one of my favorites and is jam-packed with so much wisdom and practical advice for marriages of all ages.

Jenard and his wife Destiny started their marriage podcast after only being married two years. They felt that newlyweds weren’t always being served transparent and authentic information, so the Moores wanted to do their part to help these marriages thrive. I was featured on their podcast as a guest a few months ago, and am grateful Jenard is our guest today.

Assumptions & Expectations in Marriage

If there’s one mistake we should all stop making in our relationships, it’s making assumptions about our partners. Beth McCord, popular Enneagram coach, calls this “Assumicide.” You know . . . it’s the death of our relationships due to our incessant assuming that our partners should think, behave, or be a certain way. Instead, Jenard encourages us to lay out our expectations so the other person clearly knows what you need and what you want.

When we have unrealistic expectations in marriage, it’s easy to fall into the comparison game. We can compare our spouses to our parents, past relationships, or friends’ marriages. Comparison is unhelpful and can lead to frustration, resentment, or worse. It’s such a common mistake that we discussed comparison in marriage in detail on a podcast episode here.

Why Millennials Are Avoiding Marriage

Statistics show that many millennials are choosing to skip marriage altogether, and even some Christian couples are choosing to live together without being married. This topic is worthy of a podcast all on its own, and if I record one, I’ll be sure to link it here.

Jenard believes there are many reasons why millennials are avoiding marriage. Reasons including:

• the “serial dater” culture
• fear of commitment
• fear of missing out (FOMO)

Then, there’s the age-old question: What if I married the wrong person? (Another great podcast episode!)

This episode is chock full of wise nuggets, so I hope you’ll listen all the way through.

ALSO LISTEN TO: Overcoming Unrealistic Expectations in Marriage

Links Mentioned in this Episode

• Connect with Jenard on Instagram or the Moore Love Podcast website.
• Listen to the Moore Love Connection episode I was a guest on called The Heart of the Matter

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