How to Get Over an Argument Quickly (Young & Married Series)

If you’ve been married longer than 20 minutes, you’ve likely had an argument or two. The key to resolving conflict isn’t avoiding it but approaching it with a new perspective. In today’s episode, I’m giving you five takeaways for conflict resolution that will help you get over your arguments quicker.

1. Focus on the Issue at Hand

So often, we get off on tangents, and instead of resolving the original conflict, we actually create more conflict because we haven’t learned how to focus on the issue at hand.

2. Ask, don’t accuse

You can win more arguments by asking rather than accusing. Give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. Don’t jump to conclusions, and by all means, don’t make rash accusations. I give a big coaching tip in this part of the podcast about making the “right” statements.

3. Have a resolution in mind

What’s your end goal? How will engaging in this conversation (or disagreement) help to better your relationship? Is this a conversation that needs to happen or can you jot down your frustrations in a journal? Seriously, what’s the point of the conversation?

4. Don’t let the conflict linger

If you feel things getting out of hand and you need to take a break, take a break, but come back! Don’t allow the conflict to linger on and on with no real resolution. I also talk about forgiveness here and how forgiveness plays out without you saying a word.

5. Don’t hit below the belt.

How to Get Over an Argument Without Hurting Each Other

I wish I didn’t have to explain this one, but oftentimes, in arguments, couples tend to say hurtful things that they can never get back. Be careful of your words, because contrary to popular thought, “Words do wound.”

You’ve got to listen to the full episode to get the full gist of today’s conversation. This might be one episode you want to bookmark to come back to later, and if your spouse is willing, listen to this episode with him/her! Remember that conflict does not destroy relationships; unresolved conflict does. So make a decision today to get over your arguments quickly to avoid conflict ruining your marriage.

Quotes mentioned in this episode: “Conflict cannot survive without your participation.
– Wayne Dyer

Links Mentioned in this Episode

• Sign up for my Wife Life group coaching class
• Join the Real Relationship Talk / Christian Marriages & Relationships Facebook Community!

• BONUS LINK: Setting Realistic Expectations in Your Marriage with Jenard Moore

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