Does He Think I’m Sexy
I was walking through the airport on my back from a conference when one of my guy friends asked me what I thought about the “Ayesha Curry confession.” In case you’re unaware, Ayesha, along with the other three phenomenal Curry women recently sat down with Jada Pinkett-Smith for an episode of her Red Table Talk. (Side note: big shout out to Jada for what she’s doing with her show. She kinda stole my Real Relationship Talk idea, but that’s another story. LOL.) Anyway, on the episode, Ayesha spoke about missing the male attention she used to get before marrying NBA superstar Steph Curry and having three kids. I hadn’t yet watched the episode, so I told my friend not to tell me about it. I wanted to watch it without bias.
So back to Mrs. Ayesha. (Oh, and if you haven’t seen the episode, check it out below!
In a nutshell, Ayesha was lamenting to the fact that in light of all the groupies that are in constant proximity to her husband, she sometimes wants to hear that other men think she’s “still got it.” Here are her exact words were
“Something that really bothers me, and honestly has given me a sense of a little bit of an insecurity, is the fact that — yeah, there are all these women, like, throwing themselves [at him], but me, like, the past 10 years, I don’t have any of that. I have zero — this sounds weird — but, like, male attention, and so then I begin to internalize it, and I’m like, ‘Is something wrong with me?’”
To be clear, Ayesha added that it’s not male attention she necessarily wants. She continued, “But it’d be nice to know that, like, someone’s looking.”
Well, you know social media had a fit with that! I’ve read all kinds of comments and opinions on what she said, many of them negative. So, I asked myself if I have ever felt like this? And the answer is heck yeah! Most women want to be desired, and there is nothing wrong with that. If that desire is met by your husband, you don’t have as much need for others to affirm you in that way. However, like any other need, if it is not being met at home, it creates an opportunity for you to desire and, God forbid, have that need met elsewhere. So, while the desire to be noticed might not be wrong, what you choose to do with that desires makes all the difference.
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I hate that people were so judgy toward Ayesha. I think a lot of women actually related to what she was saying. From what we can tell, she seems to be a great wife and mom and has a husband who adores her. I took her comments to mean that she still desires to feel sexy. So even if her word choice went a bit too far for some, I think we all want to look good!
Most of us still do our hair and makeup when our husbands are at work or away. Most of us look better when we leave our homes than when we’re at home all day. Maybe you don’t want the attention of men, but is it a stretch to say you do want the attention of someone? You want someone to compliment your new outfit, hair color, makeup or shoes. So maybe you don’t want to be “sexy” to other men (which if you’re married, I hope you don’t), but I think Ayesha verbalized what many women feel.
My heart goes out to the women whose husbands aren’t giving the attention they need. That’s a very lonely place to be. Let me shout this from the rooftop: You. Are. Enough.
Let me know in the comments if you can relate to what Ayesha said or if you think she went too far.
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