It’s a true fact that many people compare their relationship to someone else’s. But what we don’t talk about is how we compare ourselves to our partners. Comparison in relationships damages the joy, the appreciation, and the forward progression. We’ve all heard it said that the grass isn’t green on the other side; it’s green where you water it. And that is true. But what is also true is that when you learn to see your partner’s strengths as assets that don’t take anything away from you, you will be much less likely to compare yourself to them. I see this happen all the time in marriage. One spouse is better with finances or is more hospitable than the other. Instead of appreciation the differences, if spouses aren’t careful, they can begin playing the comparison game. And real talk, there are no winners in the comparison game. It’s not about being better than anyone else. Growing in relationships is about being better than you were yesterday.
My husband, Shaun, and I discuss how we have compared ourselves to each other in our marriage and the fallout it created. We also talk about how I compared our marriage to someone else’s relationship and again . . . the fallout it created. Here’s the thing: Shaun and I disagree on some aspects of comparing when it comes to unmet needs. You’ll have to listen to hear us hash it out. In the meantime, be sure to download your free copy of the 5 Relationship Mistakes that are Wrecking Your Life and let us help you avoid these pitfalls in whatever relationship you find yourself in.
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